Body Language in Special Circumstances


Below I give a brief overview of some tips for people in love, people in business, human resource and sales as well as some advice for public speakers.

Interactions Between Men and Women: Dating, Romance and Love.

Courtship is one of the most difficult and nerve-ridden times of our lives. If you are trying to meet the love of your life, or just looking for a good time, body language can change the way you interact. The tips below will help give you an edge in the dating scene.

Like Marilyn Monroe, women who are trying to entice a man tend to raise their

eyebrows and lower their lids because it looks similar to the face women make

when they orgasm.

• Looking up and to the side at a man is another 'come hither' look from a woman to a man.

• A sideways glance over a raised shoulder highlights curves and the roundness of the female face. This signifies estrogen and exposes the vulnerability of the neck and releases pheromones. Women instinctively do this when trying to flirt.

Interesting Fact: Women pluck their eyebrows higher up their forehead because it makes them look more helpless. This is attractive to men because a women’s helplessness causes hormone release in a man's brain connected with protecting and defending the female.

Women toss their hair or touch their neck when flirting because it exposes the

armpit, which releases sex hormones, shows the curvature of the neck and highlights shiny healthy hair.

• A woman’s outer genitals are proportionate to her lips. This is called self-mimicry and it helps attract males. Women call attention to their lips by wearing glossy or bright coloured lipstick..

Oddly, a limp wrist or exposed wrists are a sign of sexual submission and both women and gay men tend to do this subconsciously when in a room with people they want to attract. This is why while smoking, many women hold the cigarette with one wrist turned out and exposed.

Female Behaviour:

Women are better at sending and picking up body language cues than men. In fact, researcher Monika Moore found men often miss a women's first eye-gazing courtship signal. On average women need to eye-gaze three times before a man takes notice.

In another study participants were asked to decode a silent movie. Women were able to guess what was happening 87% of the time, but men could only guess correctly 42% of the time. Interestingly gay men and men in highly emotional jobs (nursing, teaching and acting) did nearly as well as women.

Women might be better at reading body language because more of their brain is active when they evaluate other’s behaviour. When in an MRI women have 14 to 16 active brain areas while evaluating others, whereas men only have 4 to 6 active.

Women with large eyes, a small nose, full lips and high cheeks are seen by men as more attractive because these features are usually correlated with high levels of estrogen, which means the woman is more fertile. In men, women like legs, butt, and chest and arms. The majority of women favour a man’s butt as her favourite male body part.

Male Behaviour:

Men are not nearly as expressive as women. In fact, women make an average of six facial expressions in 10 seconds, while men only make two.

It would be better if men were more expressive because men are perceived as charming when they mirror their partner’s body language—and women are the more expressive sex. The more couples mirror each other; the better they tend to get along. This is why older couples begin to look alike—they mirror each other’s facial expressions and therefore get the same wrinkles and muscle definition in their faces.

When men want to possess something (including a woman) they tend to lean on, touch or hold her. If you see a man drape his arm across a woman’s shoulders or the back of her chair—this is a possessive move. The “ideal” man has a strong jaw, large eyebrows and a strong nose because these correlate with high levels of testosterone, which for a woman, means he can better provide for her. Most men are split equally between liking a woman’s legs, butt or chest.

Tips for Men and Women:

• When approaching a woman, men should never come up to a woman from behind, as this will put her on guard. They are better off coming in at an angle and then standing at an angle.

• You do not need to have perfect looks to attract a man. Studies show that men are more attracted to a woman who engages in flirtation behaviour to show she is available over the best-looking woman in the room.

Attractive Body Language:


Having an expressive face

Keeping your hands below chin level (above can be seen as aggressive or over animated)

Minimal arm crossing